Motherhood really is a, “hood life.” I mean, am I the only one breaking the rules over here? I have to confess: I sometimes laugh when my toddler throws fits. Some days she literally stays in her pajamas all day and so do I. When I can’t get Cali to stop fussing I let her use me as a pacifier to fall asleep #whateverworks. Most nights at some point I end up co-sleeping and I’m actually debating if breast really is best at the moment. I think we all as moms need to give ourselves a break. None of us have it all together. We all break the rules at some point because we are too tired to care. Stop staring at and judging the mom whose kid threw a tantrum down the ice cream aisle at Target. We are all in this together. If anything you should smile and say, “I know the feeling!” You know you do! Maybe it’s not tantrums that you are dealing with, but somewhere along the line your child has given you grief. This mama business is a rewarding one, but it’s also a hard one! Be the mom other moms know they can lean on and not be judged by. On a side note, dressing up a cozy tee is a win! This top is from one of my favorite local boutique’s and is now available online! Just in time for Mother’s Day! How perfect, right? To keep up with their latest store features you can follow them on Instagram @prettylittlethingsboutique
Archives for April 2016
Although month one seemed like complete bliss, month two has been complete exhaustion. I’m not sure what the heck happened, but there is a serious drastic difference on how I felt the first month vs. month two. Maybe the lack of sleep finally just gets to you. It’s not easy anymore and I would be lying if I didn’t tell you that it’s just flat out hard now. We have discovered Cali gets consistently fussy around 7-11 every night. I don’t think it’s quite as bad as I heard colic is, but I definitely think it might be a light form of it. I’ve tried gas drops, the swing, supplementing, you name it! Nothing seems to make a difference and hearing a baby fuss for several hours is mentally exhausting. I know this is all temporary, but I’m hoping it’s something she grows out of soon! A very good update though, Cali is now sleeping in her bassinet! I think I just realized she is just a loud grunty sleeper. If I wait for a moment she normally just goes back to sleep after a little bit of grunting. Problem is she grunts all night long! I’m hoping she grows out of that soon too! Until then, “coffee is the new sleep.”
Top (Friday Apparel) // Bottoms (Old Navy)
This girl though!! #modelstatus Am I right?! She was all about working the stage in her new adorable top from Friday Apparel. If there is one thing she gets from me it has to be her love for shoes and clothes! I love it when she brings a random skirt from her room and insists on me putting it on her, along with another random pair of leggings. I don’t think it will be long and she will be wanting to dress herself. I’m all about it! Let the girl create her own fashion statement! Nineteen months has been more fun than I could have ever imagined. A part of me can’t wait until Cali Gail is this age to see what her little personality is like. Lilah is so independent, FEARLESS, and athletic. Yes, she is athletic already! This girl can pull herself all the way into Cali’s bassinet with no help! Talk about an ab work out! We have two tall chairs in our kitchen and some how she does a cheerleader move to get herself up to the top of them. I really have to constantly have both eyes on her!! The second you turn around she might actually be walking across the top of the couch like a balance beam.
Oh the transition from big pregnant belly to weird, soft, squishy belly is real. I was such a huge fan of the PinkBlush Maternity clothing line and I was so ecstatic when I realized they also had a line of clothing geared towards, “after baby.” This top is so cozy and thankfully hides my odd shape I have going on at the moment! It’s all about finding balance to help you feel great about your body image and PinkBlush has such a vast variety of clothing that will help you look and feel good afterwards. It’s so easy to get down about your image after having kids, between crazy hormones, having spit up constantly rolling down your arm, and looking like you’ve only had 3 hours of sleep (because you have), let’s face it, you don’t always feel like the girl you used to be! Well, harsh reality is that you will never be that girl again! Not even when you get back down to your comfortable weight, the acne clears, and your baby finally starts sleeping through the night. Embrace the new you my friends! Growing a tiny human inside of you is one of the most life changing events. Sure I miss having my carefree spirit and not having to constantly cake concealer under my eyes to look presentable, but I’ll take hearing Lilah’s giggles and Cali’s snuggles over the old me any day. This is mom life and some how your heart feels so full and drained at the same time. I’m learning to find balance. Well I’m actually accepting that you may never feel like life is quite as balanced as you want it to be. You learn to love and live with being a little off. Some days you have to say screw all these schedules, the rules and guidelines to having the happy perfect baby, and squeezing in your 30 minute work-out. Today I’m going to eat donuts, I’m going to co-sleep so I can catch up on some rest (so what if I’m creating a sleep prop), and just for today I’m going to let my toddler destroy my house and go to bed with everything still looking like a tornado. This is balance. Some days you have to just say, “Namast’ay in Bed.”
People were not lying when they say every baby is different. I really did like to believe that I trained Lilah to not be a needy newborn, but the truth was she was actually just born that way. Lilah did not take a pacifier until she was four months and she actually preferred to be in her bouncer or laying on the floor exploring her new world. Little Miss Cali has been the complete opposite! This sweet little girl does not like to be put down and I’m really starting to feel like Regina George over here! ?
So serious, can I get a break!!? Just when you think she is in a deep sleep and you can carefully put her in the bassinet, you are wrong. The girl sleeps like a champ as long as she is next to me. Does anyone know how to break this habit or am I going to just have to ride this one out? I’m not against co-sleeping, but it’s not really my desire. I am trying really hard to figure out how to train her to sleep on her own, but so far I have had zero luck. I love her snuggles, but Mama needs sleep!
This is my life now, seriously! I love it when Andy asks, “How did your night go?” Honestly, I can’t remember most nights! Between getting up every 2-3 hours, trying to remember which breast Cali nursed on last, and playing pick up the paci, everything starts to just run together! If it wasn’t for good coffee in the morning and eye concealer, I’m pretty sure I would look like a zombie. Even though most days I’m not able to get dressed and ready for the day until noon, I still try to make a point to do it! Why? Because I like to feel put together with at least something in my life and I promise you will be in a much better mood after putting some actual real clothes on and mascara! I do have a go-to wardrobe these days and that’s been a cozy tee with my most-loved denim shorts. Being a Mom of two has really changed what I grab to put on for the day and I try to go for things that are easy to move around in! I mean how cute is this top from, Hello Apparel?! The best thing about it is that it is seriously so soft and super light! Perfect for the summer months ahead!
Finding style other than your favorite pair of pj’s after baby can sometimes be hard. Let’s face it, our bodies are just not the same after giving birth. Even after getting back down to pre-baby weight my stomach still feels flabby! At this point I still haven’t been cleared to start working out yet, so I am definitely gravitating towards anything loose! This romper from Target has been a go-to for me the past couple of weeks. Not only is it super soft and cozy, the fact that it’s a button down makes breastfeeding convenient! I’ve also been rocking the half bun hairstyle these days. My hair is super heavy, so opting for the half bun helps keep my hair out of my face without making my head sore by the end of the day (ladies with thick hair you know what I’m talking about)!
Oh, where do I begin? I guess for starters I will give every Mama out there that is pregnant and about to have two under two a sigh of relief, because it’s not as bad as I thought it would be! In fact being pregnant with a toddler was way harder for me than having a new baby with a toddler. The first month I have been lucky that my husband was able to be off for 3 weeks so we were able to split everything up. Andy was basically on Lilah duty and I was on Cali duty. This worked pretty well while he was off, but now that he is back at work I’ve had to really get organized! If I’m lucky Cali will wake up and have a feeding before Lilah wakes up and I’m able to ease into my morning a little bit. Newborns are so easy the second time around and you wonder why you ever thought it was hard in the first place. Eat, poop, and sleep. The toddler life is where your real work begins! I have to admit though, Lilah has been such a sweetheart to her new baby sister and has transitioned so well! She is so gentle for the most part, other than a couple of times she has tried to sit on her and for what ever reason she is obsessed with trying to figure out how to pull her hair! It’s also pretty comical when I’m breastfeeding Cali and Lilah starts licking her lips and then tries to go for the other side! I was not prepared for that one! Haha! On a side note, I’m really into the the white on white trend for spring/summer. I also can’t get enough of all the fun graphic tee’s out right now! Having a newborn you are pretty much home bound the first few months, so a cozy tee has been my go-to.