The biggest question I get asked is, “what’s it like having two so close in age?” This is the part where I take in a very deep breath and exhale. I don’t want to scare people away from having their kids close, but then I also want to be completely honest. I think one day it will be nice. I could be wrong, but I think when they are four and five life will be a little bit easier. Right now it’s VERY hard.
Lilah will be three next month and Cali will be a year and a half. So at some point I will have not just one going through the terrible twos/threes, but I’ll have two babes going through it. Cali just has an early start on those terrible twos! Baby girl is tough! Having one is running a one hundred meter dash. Having two almost the same age is running a marathon. It’s night and day difference. It’s life changing, so be prepared!
Below I will list a few things that I think are the hardest parts and then a few things that I’ve really enjoyed about the whole experience!
1. Nap time. I feel like it’s almost impossible to have them nap at the same time. Lilah is in a toddler bed so she can obviously get out of bed, and recently she has started refusing to nap. She will kick and scream at the door and this usually wakes Cali up at some point. No one is napping good because usually someone is waking the other one up. This in return might make you feel like you need Daddy to snag a bottle of wine on the way home!
2. Going anywhere with two is a lot of work. Packing for two, loading two in and out of the car, and don’t even get me started on two kids in a grocery cart. One is screaming, “I want turtle snacks!” while the other starts pulling hair for fun. Both end up screaming and mama makes her way down the wine aisle. How was your day hunny?
3. Being consistent goes out the door. Everyone tells you, “you have to be consistent!” I was very consistent when I had one. I had two and then my give a damn was busted. Do what keeps you sane. Some days I get it right, and then other days Andy and I just laugh as they walk all over our table eating chicken nuggets.
What I love!
1. I love that Lilah has someone she can play with. My sister and I are almost the same age difference as Lilah and Cali. I loved growing up with someone that was basically the same age as me and luckily we loved a lot of the same things! We literally could play barbies for hours and when we had friends come over, we would always joke that they didn’t know how to play barbies right! Hah! Only my sis knew how to play right! Still today we are best friends and I have such a blast getting to do life with her! Love you sis?
2. Getting it done all at once. I will not be getting one out of the toddler phase and then starting it over again. I’m just going through the toddler phase x2. Do you want to feel like you are dealing with a toddler for a long time or just a really chaotic short time? Personally, the thought of dragging it out just wasn’t something I wanted to do. I am glad I won’t feel like I’ve had a toddler for ten years!
3. Never a dull moment. Bored? You literally will never be bored with two kids. I think I’m seriously not going to know what to do with myself when these two go to school! One of them might always be getting into something, but they are constantly making us laugh! Not to mention I get double kisses and snuggles now! #imneverlettinggo