Now in the beginning of my relationship with Andy I could have easily answered this question with, “Any man would be lucky to be married to me. I am fun, easy going, always dressed to impress, never too tired for sex, and I can easily make my husband my number one priority. As we all know life can get busy and messy really fast and it is easy to forget why we married each other in the first place. Life is always changing and being married means forever growing with someone. I remember before Lilah was born Andy had made the comment, “We are never having toys strolled all over the house.” About three months after we had Lilah sure enough her toys had taken over half the living room, and I was sitting folding my stack of laundry that seemed to never leave the couch, I was wearing yoga pants because my jeans still didn’t fit me without giving me a muffin top, my hair had literally been in an unwashed pony tail for three days, dishes were piled in the sink, and my husband had suddenly taken a moment to see the beauty in all the chaos. He let out a sigh of relief and said, “I love our messy house.. it finally feels like home.” To me that meant the world. It was reassurance that it didn’t matter anymore to him if he came home to a perfectly polished house and wife. Life wasn’t anything like the beginning of our relationship and maybe even after just one year we had both changed in different ways. What was it like to be married to me after having a baby? What would Andy say years from now about the kind of wife I was to him? Did I still feel like any guy would be lucky to have me? How did we treat each other the first few years as parents? Did I let stress and life with a baby over take my priority relationship with my husband? Did we laugh over spilled milk or did we cry? “When we are at the beginning of a relationship it is difficult to think of the end.” If you have kids you know life goes by fast and they grow in just a blink. I feel like I still just brought Lilah home from the hospital and now she is already rolling over and sleeping in her own room. When it comes to our kids we want to cherish every second of them. Our spouse shouldn’t be any different. It should be that same unconditional love that we feel for our kids. They should bring us the same joy and excitement because in a blink of an eye you will be sitting across the table from each other at your ten year anniversary, and then twenty year, and so on. What will you have to say about each other when that day comes?